As Tanner and I planned our wedding , we both agreed that our vows were the most important part of the ceremony. For this reason, we decided to write our own (we read from the books pictured above for the ceremony).
First, we both researched wedding vows individually and collected our favorite lines and added some of our own. Then we shared with each other the words we had recorded. (This was probably the most interesting phase of the process, since Tanner’s closing line was “You are the droid I am looking for.”) Next, we decided on the major themes – yes, I am an English teacher – that we found in both of our vows. Because we still wanted to share the words through our own communication styles, we each worded our vows a little differently, while still expressing the same ideas.
Through his research Tanner had come across couples who intermingled their vows by each reading a phrase at a time, instead of the complete vows separately. We both loved the idea, so here are the final words we spoke to each other as the promise that marked the beginning of our life together:
I, Tanner, in the presence of God, our family, and our friends, take you, Meagan, to be my wife, my bride, and my best friend.
I, Meagan, in the presence of God, our family, and our friends, take you, Tanner, to be my husband, my partner, and my best friend.
You are a gift - a gift that I receive from God and your family. And I acknowledge all of your strengths and weaknesses, just as you acknowledge mine.
I am so excited to receive you as a gift from God, acknowledging your faults and your strengths, as you do mine.
I vow to give you the absolute best of myself in poverty and wealth and in sickness and in health. I will seek God humbly and be led by Him as I lead our family.
I commit myself to you from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness, and in health, and I vow to seek God by your side in each of these circumstances.
I will lay down everything for you, to serve you.
I will try in every way to be worthy of your love and to serve you with grace and humility.
While today I dedicate myself to you formally, every day in the future I choose to dedicate myself to you in every act, every word, and every thought. I will fight for our marriage until the day we meet our Savior.
Today I dedicate myself to you formally. For every day of our future, I choose to dedicate myself to you in each act, each word, and each thought, and to fight for our marriage until the day we meet our Savior.
As I reread these words, I am reminded of what a challenge marriage is and will be, but also how beautiful a gift it is that God created and has given me to experience.